I found out who on my team at work was interested in the No!No! in April (see post). I figured the topic would come up again eventually, or that maybe I’d notice some body hair on one of them. But to tell you the truth, on the average day, I’d forget about it. I never really looked. So if one of my colleagues hadn’t asked me to untangle her necklace for her while she was wearing it, I never would have known for sure.
I thought I’d seen a few hairs on her chin once before, but it was a passing glance as she sat next to me and I didn’t want to look again in case she noticed and felt self conscious. But yesterday, because I had to keep my eyes on what I was doing (that chain was really tangled!) I could clearly see the combination of both coarse dark and coarse light hairs on her chin. They were several days long, but blunt like they were usually cut.
Finding someone else who might know what you’re going through is very exciting. But then I wondered, does she? She might have a more serious condition than I do. She might have an even harder time with the situation than I do. She’s much older than I, and is of an ethnicity to which such things are a little more common. Her chin might be the only place she has it. She might not be bothered by it nearly as much. Would it be callous of me to just hop on the subject with a thrilled exclamation of, “Hey! You have hair on your chin! Me too!”?
I know I’d be unnerved, if it were me. But then I’d be relieved and happy to have someone to talk to. I might not even mind if it happened in front of the rest of the team. But I cannot make that call for someone else. There may be an opportunity to jump into a conversation about hair removal sometime in the future, since there’ve already been a couple.