tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post7066813901484662002..comments2022-03-26T23:55:18.934-06:00Comments on All Kinds of Fur: Who Gets the Hairy Roomie?Allerleirahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07913518795446410491noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-27204660608247783982011-09-13T21:35:31.743-06:002011-09-13T21:35:31.743-06:00Soph - I may not have kept going with you. :)
&q...<b>Soph -</b> I may not have kept going with you. :)<br /><br /><i>"...by hiding it more and more, we wound ourselves more and more that we should hide it and it becomes a vicous circle and we completely lose the real picture."</i><br /><br />So true. Obsessing in front of the mirror day in and day out makes us lose perspective. Totally. *nods*<br /><br /><br /><b>Carly -</b> Hahaha, I wonder that too--"Did I pull the wool over their eyes, or did they see something after all?" I used to wonder it on a daily basis, but I think as you get more comfortable with yourself, you care just a tiny bit less.Allerleirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07913518795446410491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-82477983088406881842011-09-08T09:52:58.185-06:002011-09-08T09:52:58.185-06:00I just saw that you replied - sorry about that! I...I just saw that you replied - sorry about that! I *think* I was able to keep them in the dark... Although I also think that sometimes I wasn't as slick as I thought at the time. Maybe that would be a good topic for the post I send... :-)Carlyhttp://www.pinkrazorproject.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-12373984025110776752011-09-07T15:29:01.895-06:002011-09-07T15:29:01.895-06:00I think I know why. I probably sound like and old ...I think I know why. I probably sound like and old record but the media pressured society makes us think we are worse. And because we are "lucky" enough (cough cough) to be able to hide it (there are so many conditions that cannot be hidden!), we dont really know what "normal" people who know us (not those flawless photoshop tv creatures) would think. But because we don't know, we put ouservselves in the state of mind that we would be hated if the truth (the hair) comes out and by hiding it more and more, we wound ourselves more and more that we should hide it and it becomes a vicous circle and we completely lose the real picture. Plus, if we do happen to have, say, a mother who calls us a mutant at 12 (me) or any other one-off but deeply dramatic situations (caused my mindless idiots), of course we are terrified to tell anyone else. And it is not our fault, there is nothing wrong with us - our minds are being tempered with so they get sick. <br />Now, that's the reason, what is the cure? Well, among other things, you are, Al. Writing your blog, discussing these issues, looking at the history of "beauty", talking about it and giving the dark issues names. Names that can be looked up and researched. Bringing examples, never giving up to support others. BEING an example. Simple. <br />Yes, I think, medically, your blog helped me more with all aspects of being hirsuite than any doctor I met.<br /><br />s.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-71839608394104153682011-09-07T14:54:12.294-06:002011-09-07T14:54:12.294-06:00Hahaha, that sounds just like what I would do. Sk...Hahaha, that sounds just like what I would do. Skirt around the issue as long as I could until I just couldn't bear it anymore.<br /><br />That's sort of what all the reactions have been like when I tell someone, too. "And...?" I don't know why we have to expect the worst! :)Allerleirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07913518795446410491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-68368937642527327662011-08-31T18:45:54.655-06:002011-08-31T18:45:54.655-06:00I used to tell my ex: "if anything happens to...I used to tell my ex: "if anything happens to me and you really HAVE TO call the ambulance, just cover me from top to toe and tell them only ONE person can see me" ;) Since then, I had to show my.. everything to so many doctors I really stopped being bothered (well, in emergency situation at least). Point of view depends on the point of the chair you sat on.<br /><br />And that colleague - it took me hours and lots of wine to tell her what The Problem actually is (with her guesses finally causing me to blurt it out) and her reaction was - and...? It would have saved me so much time and energy if I just said: "'Look, I have to shave my face in the mornings, and you're going to have to deal with seeing it, because I'm going to have to deal with you seeing it.'"<br />I'll write this down in case I need to use it one day ;)<br /><br />s.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-71606975821818899852011-08-31T15:06:13.948-06:002011-08-31T15:06:13.948-06:00Soph - I remember that story. There comes a time ...<b>Soph</b> - I remember that story. There comes a time when you just have to lay it out on the table, obviously. "Look, I have to shave my face in the mornings, and you're going to have to deal with seeing it, because I'm going to have to deal with you seeing it." :)<br /><br /><b>Carly</b> - The fear is right up there with winding up unconscious in a hospital bed, for me! How did you manage? Were you able to keep your temporary roommates in the dark?Allerleirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07913518795446410491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-41456576067700667102011-08-26T18:26:24.281-06:002011-08-26T18:26:24.281-06:00I hear you, sister. I have had many similar fearf...I hear you, sister. I have had many similar fearful experiences when I've had to share a room with another person. Thank you for the message to just try to go for the experiences, and not let the hair get in the way :-)Carlyhttp://www.pinkrazorproject.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-791101537367433738.post-27482313190207279232011-08-25T13:03:22.446-06:002011-08-25T13:03:22.446-06:00:)
I remember last time I went away with a colle...:) <br /><br />I remember last time I went away with a colleague - seethrough door to the bathroom... Yeah, that was the day I told her ... <br /><br />Great news! You need some time away and with the room issue solved, there's nothing to worry about! Just enjoy it and get the best out of it!!! :) <br />s.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com